“The secret to life is to put yourself in the right lighting. For some, it's a Broadway spotlight; for others, a lamplit desk.
Use your natural powers -- of persistence, concentration, and insight -- to do work you love and work that matters.
Solve problems. make art, think deeply.”
― Susan Cain, Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking
They dangle their beautiful heads, even in full bloom they are shy. Their beauty, in the dead of winter, is a breath of fresh air and a gift. Their leaves are often speckled with rain damage and not always pretty, making them easy to walk by unnoticed, as the buds hide in the shelter beneath the ragged leaves overhead.
They really never turn their faces upwards towards the sky, but will look you straight in the eye if you get down to their level to engage. Which I encourage you to do.
I have a few in my yard but our local arboretum has hundreds and it is a win-win situation for the dog and I as we stroll along the paths between rain showers one day. Their colors are muted and they don't dazzle like roses or daisies, who feel a need to be in the spotlight, every head in the crowd taking notice. But rather hellebores are content to flourish in calm and quiet, often overlooked, but content.
I decided that they are introverts. Choosing to bloom alone in the darkness of winter; choosing to not draw too much attention by offering up too much glitz or color. They are a solitary plant, demanding quiet and your full attention to see their delicate layers of beauty.
I think most of us introverts struggle to find the right lighting. But when we find it, we are able then to let go of the guilt of not always fitting in and live our lives whole. Shining without judgement or questions.
how was your week?